Tools & Tips from Michael Becker

The Intelligent Divorce

My office has for years maintained a fairly large lending library for clients. Often, we add books and videos to our collection on the suggestion of clients. Recently, a client suggested that I add The Intelligent Divorce by Mark Banschick to the collection, and I am glad I did. Clients love it, and for good reason.

This easy to read paperback offers solid, practical advice for parents of children going through divorce. One important early chapter addresses how, when and where to tell children about the divorce. Another chapter provides a very user-friendly primer on child development, and, most important, how to know whether a child is clearing developmental hurdles or instead regressing under the stress of the divorce.

I also like the helpful advice directly from parents and children about what worked for them in navigating their own divorces.

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