Tools & Tips from Michael Becker

Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity and Change — A Review

After her divorce, Maggie Smith took to the internet to post some inspirational quotes.

People loved them. So she put together a book on the topic. In Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity and Change, Smith collects short essays and quotes about surviving hard times and creating new beginnings. I recommend this book for clients and practitioners alike. It’s in my waiting room lending library and circulates well.

When I first heard of Smith’s book, I thought it might just be another ‘don’t worry, be happy’ sort of offering. How wrong I was. The writings are truly reflective, thought-provoking, and often motivating. Many help readers to acknowledge and normalize their sadness/loss (a really important step), while others offer thoughts on getting through. Trite as this may seem to say, many moved me deeply.

It’s a very easy read. Because it’s a series of essays and quotes, you can keep it nearby and dip in and out as you wish.

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