In life everyone experiences uncertainty. And for many, divorce is one of those times.

Pema Chödrön is one of my favorite authors about meditation, mindfulness and Buddhist thinking. In When
Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, Chödrön offers helpful advice for living a bit better when we are faced with uncertainty.

She invites us to think about uncertainty as one of the basic facts of human existence, and to accept this rather than fight it. Combining this with a central tenet of Buddhism — that nothing lasts forever, everything changes — Chödrön suggests that we can better master our anxieties.

That’s not to say that we don’t try to change things. Rather, paradoxically, accepting uncertainty and knowing that things will change can help to calm us a bit all by itself.